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I’m an ex-cop and certain habits have stayed with me. Notably, I tend to study the people I come in contact with. The way they act, what they might be thinking and how they may be feeling. It’s a habit borne from the self-preservation that kept me from getting hurt countless times while working the street.

So, while standing in the checkout line at Walgreen’s, I was doing what I tend to do. In this case I was studying the cashier. She appeared to be 18 or 19 years old, tallish, but otherwise not really remarkable physically. When she took the cash from my hand, that’s when I noticed her arms. She was a cutter. And a couple of her cuts looked fairly recent. Despite the marks on her arms she was pleasant and chatty during our transaction. So whatever was troubling her was obviously something that she was well-practiced at covering up.

I have a reputation as a tough guy, but seeing sad kids makes me sad too. And as I drove away from that store, I found myself thinking about what girls need. Admittedly, I was thinking about what I think they need. But it’s an opinion that comes from having been a father to three girls.

I believe that girls should be able to feel strong. Not just strong in their capabilities or strong in their convictions, but strong as in strong. Girls aren’t generally encouraged to connect with their physical selves the way that boys are. And that’s a shame.

If a girl can experience the kind of self-mastery that comes from doing things that she couldn’t do before; things which are difficult, or even a bit scary, then that experience would be powerful medicine indeed.

I used to think that complicated problems required complicated solutions. I don’t always think that way now. For girls who are bullied, girls who don’t feel smart enough or popular enough, those girls should have a place to go. A transformative place. A place where girls could begin the process of becoming strong. It could even be a place with weights and bars and someone to teach the proper way to use them. A place where feelings of weakness and doubt would eventually disappear.

Feeling strong is important. Strength is like armor; both physical and psychological. Strong girls are better able to make strong choices. And if you make strong choices consistently, you are well on your way to becoming amazing. And wouldn’t it be great if more girls felt like they were amazing? It just might change the world.

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Broadcast News

When people ask me what I remember most about my years as a police officer, they probably expect to hear stories of action and danger. But some of my more vivid memories are of situations which were not especially dramatic, but have stuck with me nonetheless. This is one of those…

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Math and Milestones

Way back in the Army and then later on as a cop, I never thought about my age much. I only thought about what it felt like to have all the time in the world. Because, back then, I was young. Meaning that I was a long way away from being old. And if you would have asked me back then, “How old is old?”, I would have told you that old was 55 years of age. Because 55 was the age that almost everyone retired at. And the younger version of me understood why that was. There are physical requirements that come with those jobs. It’s hard to imagine a typical 55-year-old on the march into battle or taking a violent suspect into custody. So sure, it made sense that there would be an age when one would have to leave those kinds of vocations. And that age was 55. Therefore, 55 was, officiallyold.

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Men, Myths and Meetings

Like most men, I’ve had my share of mentors. Men who spoke directly into my life and helped shape the person I’ve become. And in addition to mentors, I’ve had some ‘myths’ in my life as well. I define ‘myth’ as someone who may or may not be ‘real’, but their story or persona represents something that you wish to emulate.

When I was young, I had a list of mythical men who embodied various characteristics I valued. Some were historical figures and a couple of them were movie stars. In 1981, after a couple of self-destructive years, I went through some significant changes in terms of how I wanted to live my life. Chief among them was deciding that I actually wanted to live my life. And it was shortly after that particular realization when I was introduced to two film stars; Chuck Norris and Sylvester Stallone.

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Currency

Every now and again I am reminded of a particular truth. And you may have noticed that I used the word ‘truth’. That was intentional. I wrote truth instead of a more general term like observation, notion or idea.

My reason for doing this is that what I’m about to say is something that most people, deep down, find unbelievable. So, I wrote ‘truth’ in hopes of leading you towards the acceptance of a premise. A premise which most people are resistant to. Now here comes that truth I told you about: “Money does not buy happiness.” That’s it. And yes, I know that you’ve heard this before. Many times, right? In fact, you’ve probably heard it so many times that you might be thinking, “Yeah Mike, everybody knows that.” But here’s the thing. Although we’ve all heard that expression, almost nobody believes it. Not really.

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